Squash in Egypt

Yeah so my oldest friend and i have know each other our whole lives (16 years) and we have been inseparable for years!

However, last year in school. I got to know another girl in my year. This was because i was in all her lessons and stuff. She started to hang round with the rest of us, and everything was fine until a few months ago.

Basically, i found out that the new girl had been taking drugs and stuff. But she had only told my best friend (which i didn’t mind too much about)

But what did really upset me was when the 2new girl" told me that my best friend has been self harming for 3 years, but she didn’t want to tell me. I felt so hurt that she hadn’t told me before, and that she told the new friend instead of me, who she has know and trusted her whole life. I tried to get her help with the self harming, but she wasn’t having any of it.

A few months on, and they are both back to normal really (no drugs/self harming) but they are closer than ever, and when we are all together they barely talk to me. They always organise concerts for them to go and see together. Sometimes they ask me if i want to go, but the conversation goes something like this;

"Do you want to go to this gig?"
"Yeah sure"
"Really?"
"Yeahhh"
"Are you sure? Its going to be really hot, and squashed, and loud"

"Yeah i’ve been to one before, i know what its like"
"Well i’m just saying i really don’t think its your thing"
"Okay"
"Are you not coming then?"
"Hmm"
"Okay then, i’m booking the tickets now, if you change your mind ring me and i will get one. Byee"

Then they always have to meet up with eachother first before they go out with the rest of us.

I don’t know what to do anymore, i don’t know if their making me feel like this on purpose? But seriously when its just the 3 of us, they walk next to each other with their arms round each other, and always hug and stuff. While i just stand there. I hate the whole situation, i need some help.

I just feel really left out, and i often dread going out.

A real friend would not make you feel this way. Cut your losses and let them have each other. You are a source of their jokes, and you dont have to be. Their actions make it known that they do not value your friendship and they are intentionally trying to hurt you. Find new friends. You deserve better, never let anyone make you feel like less than the wonderful person you are.